If you have a son who’s going to be getting married in the near future, you may be unsure about what you should or shouldn’t be doing to help prepare for this big day. And while most brides generally take on the bulk of the planning for weddings, there are still things that you can and should be doing to help your son throughout the course of this event.
To help you figure out what these things are, here are three tips for helping your son plan his wedding.
Talk About Finances Upfront
Depending on your financial situation, the financial situation of your son, and what precedents may have been set in the past with your family, you may be prepared to help pay for part of the wedding expenses. But whether this is in your plans or not, Elizabeth Fishel, a contributor to NextAvenue.org, advises that you sit down with your son and his fiance and have a frank conversation about finances before they get too far into the wedding planning process.
By being transparent about what you’re planning to pay for, how much money you will be contributing, or what you won’t be footing the bill for, your son and his fiance will have a much clearer idea of how they’ll be able to pay for their big day.
Discuss Wardrobe Options
For all of the events surrounding the wedding, it’s a good idea to purchase new clothes that will fit the occasion, especially if there are certain colors that the wedding party should be wearing.
As you look at and discuss wardrobe options for the wedding with your son and his fiance, Chris Obenschain, a contributor to How Stuff Works, advises that if you’re planning to splurge on part of the wardrobe, try to pick something that will look great in the context of the wedding but will also be wearable at later events in life, too.
Always Defer To Your Son and His Fiance
When your son was younger, you likely had a lot of say about what he did and how things in his life would go. But now that he’s an adult who’s getting married, Dr. Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, a contributor to AARP.org, shares that you’ll have to learn how to give and take with what you think versus what he and his fiance want for their wedding.
Knowing this, when your opinions differ, it’s going to be best if you bite the bullet and always defer to what your son and his fiance want. After all, this is their wedding.
If you’re going to be helping your son as he plans his upcoming wedding, consider using the tips mentioned above to assist you all throughout this process.
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