This picture is from a couple of weeks ago when Riley was eating off of her first ear of corn. How cute, right? 🙂
Today’s Talk About It Tuesday is about a sort-of fear I have. We have such a beautiful, intelligent daughter. Miles and I definitely want to have more children. We’re waiting until Riley is potty trained, though, to start trying for a second one.
I’m scared, though. Why? How am I going to keep up with two children? Lol. Riley keeps me on my toes constantly and I just feel like she’ll somehow get shifted to the side and I won’t be able to pay attention to her the way she needs/wants. Also, how in the world am I ever going to be able to go out with my kids when Miles has to work… how am I going to be able to take Riley and a newborn?
My mom (keep in mind, she’s technically my grandma) is telling me I’m over thinking it – which, I’m sure I am. My mom had two kids by the time she was 22 (which I will be on July 7th). And she made it work. Heck, Her and her then-husband only had one car and while he was at work, they would walk around town when he wasn’t home (of course they were older).
I give so much credit to mothers with more than one children – and definitely a lot of credit to 3+.
We will definitely have more kids – I want a boy. The max I will have is three (of course if we end up with twins – which is a possibility since I was pregnant with twins with Riley and the one just didn’t develop – then oh boy. Let the fun begin. Hahaha.
Tell me, moms – how do you do it with more than one child? I’d love to know your tricks and tips! 🙂
I’m a 20-something stay-at-home mother and wife. I have an amazing husband, a beautiful daughter, two loving dogs, and a lazy cat. I wouldn’t change my life for anything! I love to read, listen to music, cook and blog!
When my oldest was 22 months old, I gave birth to my youngest! They are now 5 and 4! I wouldn’t have 2 kids that close in age again, for a number of reasons. The main one being that I had 2 in diapers.
You find out that it’s really not that hard to have 2 kids! With my boys, my oldest was so happy & wanted to help as much as he could with his baby brother. He still protects him. It got a little hectic, but I managed 🙂 You will too!
Aww! Thank you for the encouraging words! 🙂
I’m a mom of one but I thought I’d leave a comment anyway. You know the anxiety you had about becoming getting pregnant or becoming a mother a first time around? I believe it is the same thing. You would brought your daughter home somehow you just knew what to do. It’s Mother’s nature and however many kids we are blessed with I believe we are given what we need as Mother’s to support their daily lives. So it doesn’t go without stress and worry of course – but the day to day “how am I going to do this” it comes naturally . LIke Jessica wrote about, you’ll manage.
Good point – I was so afraid I wouldn’t know what to do when I was brought Riley home, but it just came naturally.
Thank you so much for the encouragement, Kenya! 🙂
I have 3 children (all teens), but I remember the feeling of being “outnumbered” at times! You won’t be able to tend to every child’s needs immediately, but they will learn to cope and wait their turn. I’m convinced my 3rd child is easy going simply because I couldn’t always run to her when she was crying because I was trying to juggle the needs of my other 2 children as well.
Thank you for the encouragement, Kristl! I love how your name is spelled, by the way!
Are you sure its not a age thing? Your only 22 (soon) and can afford to wait some if you want. Just something to think about. 🙂
I was so scared–and especially nervous about breast feeding. It was surprising how everything just fit together though. The kids automatically loved each other. And I had a special toy for my older baby to play with only while I breastfed. It was really a neat experience and memory.
Now . . . they’re older and they fight all the time LOL! Why can’t they remember how much they loved each other at first? *still giggling* The life of having four kids . . . ug :0)
You voiced a lot of my own fears here. Especially the keeping up! At 37, I wonder how I’d do with a second?
Courtney,
If you really want another child then go for it. You will know what to do because it really comes naturally. Don’t try to overanalyze it. I have 2 children. They are teenagers now (17 and 13), but I do remember that things did get hectic( and it still can be) but it’s ok. They (and you) will learn how to cope. Keep an open mind and things will happen when and how they’re supposed to. Good luck whatever you decide to do.
I understand that feeling! We knew as soon as we had our first, though, that if we were going to have more we would have them close together. We wanted 4, but unfortunately my husband got cancer while I was pregnant with our 3rd, so we are not able to have anymore. All 3 of our kids have special needs – our oldest is on the Autism Spectrum, and our youngest 2 have Sensory Processing Disorder. Their ages are 6, 4, and 2 (20 months between the first 2 and 28 months between the middle and last). And you know what? I wouldn’t change a thing! Days are rough sometimes particularly “high sensory” days, but I just feel absolutely blessed. My husband’s cancer was testicular cancer, and he was 25 when he got it (I am a little older than him). A majority of men go infertile a couple YEARS before diagnosis so essentially we might not have even had our 2nd two children, so I consider it an absolute blessing, and I’m glad we just decided to be open to letting it happen when it happens instead of listening to well-meaning friends and family that told us to wait to have more kids! Everybody’s “right time” may be different, but the “right circumstances” I think just don’t exist! haha 🙂 I actually found the 20 month spacing much easier than the 28 months. Even the 28 months felt “too long,” like I had to go back to “baby phase” again. Having 2 in diapers was never a big deal particularly since our cloth diapers are one-size. I find 3, in general, is much tougher than 2. 2 was wear the baby put the toddler in the cart. 3, though, well, then you have to wear one and keep your eye on 2! haha Being that they’re so close together, though, they will seriously play for hours in their rooms together! It’s awesome! 🙂 I just take it one day at a time!
I won’t lie. It was hard to adjust from #1 to #2. After three months, things got easier and by 6 months, it was a piece of cake. I’m expecting baby #3 in February. I am 23 until next month. My kids right now are 3 years old and 13 months old, lol. Things work itself out. 🙂