When a family is excited to welcome a baby into the world, they begin planning and celebrating. Expectant parents get the baby’s room ready, pick out a name, and often receive a baby shower with gifts for their new baby. There is a sense of excitement leading up to the due date.
On the other hand, if a baby was not planned, and a woman finds herself pregnant, she may feel scared, confused, and alone. Often, she thinks that her circumstances, at that moment, are not ideal in which to bring a baby. Whether she feels she is too old, too young, or too financially unstable, she does not feel prepared to raise a child during this season of her life.
Her first thought might be, “What am I going to do?” She may feel shame and want to hide her pregnancy. She may not want to be a mother at all. Sometimes, embarrassment overshadows convictions and she may make a decision in haste that she lives to regret. The only thing she can think about is how to undo what has been done. If this is you right now, you are not alone!
DeColores Adoptions has counseled hundreds of women in this situation. We often hear the question, “What is a reason to give up a baby for adoption?” There are many reasons to place a baby for adoption. We prefer to say “place your baby” over “give up your baby” because you are far from giving up when you choose adoption. You are giving the gift of life which is one of the best gifts a person can give.
There are many reasons a woman may decide to place her baby for adoption, so we encourage you to talk with one of our counselors at 1-877-436-4530. We can discuss the potential reasons with you and help you decide. Remember, you will never be pressured or obligated to choose adoption. The choice is yours. If you’re ready to proceed with the gift of adoption, we will be here to help you through the process and help you find a great family for your baby. There are so many loving families waiting and eager to lavish your child with love.
Some of the most common reasons a birth mother places her baby for adoption are:
- I’m too young to raise a baby.
Young women who become pregnant may choose adoption because, at this time in their lives, they know they are not ready to become a parent. Placing her baby for adoption will allow a birth mother to finish high school or college and give her baby a chance at a better life than they could offer them while still in high school or college.
- I’m not financially able to provide for a baby.
Raising a child is no small task, and finances are definitely something to consider. It’s estimated to cost over $200K to raise a child to adulthood. A parent must provide food, clothing, medical care, and more for each of their children. Many women know that they would not be able to afford to properly care for a baby. Placing a baby for adoption opens up a world of opportunities for the child.
- My family is already complete.
Many birth moms already have other children they are raising. They may not be able to devote the time, energy, or attention to raising another baby while caring for the children they already have. Because a birthmother wants her baby to have the best possible opportunities in life, she may decide to place her baby for adoption. This allows her to continue to care for the children she already has while giving the new baby the best possible chance at a great life.
- I don’t have a good relationship with the baby’s father and having a child would force me to be connected to him forever.
Sometimes a birth mother chooses adoption because she is not prepared to be a single mother and wants her baby to be raised by two parents. Sometimes the father is not in the picture and she knows there will be no financial or emotional support from him. Sometimes, the baby was conceived outside the relationship they are currently in. No matter the reason, sometimes she decides this is the best option.
- I love my baby and want the best life for him or her.
Birthmothers already have a strong connection to their baby before birth. They grow to love them with a love like no other – the unconditional love of a mother. They know that as painful as it will be, this sacrifice is the best decision they could ever make for their baby. Because they love their baby so much, they decide to do one of the most selfless things anyone can do – give the gift of life through adoption.
If you’re considering adoption and asking the question, “Should I put up my baby for adoption?” we would love to guide you through this process. This is a decision that we do not take lightly, and we can help you decide if adoption is the best decision for you right now. We will guide you through what all the possible scenarios will look like for you and help you come up with a comfortable choice. Call 1-877-436-4530 to talk with an adoption counselor today. DeColores Adoptions specializes in assisting birth mothers, and we are passionate about helping you through this journey.
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