Like any other relationship, marriages have their ups and downs. There are times where it feels like some distance develops between you and your partner, and those are totally normal. Difficulties often occur because of factors like miscommunication, lack of quality time, and differing love languages. The trick is to be committed to making the relationship work. It may take a little work, but if you’re both willing to make the effort you can regain your footing in the relationship. Here are a few tips to help you overcome the unhappy times and regain the spark together.
- Spend more quality time together
One great way to bring the spark back to your marriage is spending quality time with each other. This means valuable, energized time, as opposed to the leftovers after you’re tired. A strong marriage needs plenty of quality time where you can be playful and affectionate, time where you can focus on each other. Create some space in each day where you can slow down together.
Date nights are a great idea to help you overcome your relationship doldrums. A date night can be anything really, whether it’s watching a movie, going out for dinner, or cooking a meal together. What’s important is that you do it together and use the time to connect. Quality time is all about rebuilding your bond. Getting closer together again is a step in the right direction toward better communication that can help you work on whatever problems are holding your relationship back.
- Take a trip somewhere
Date nights are great for cultivating your relationship, but sometimes you need to take things to the next level. Consider taking a trip somewhere for a while. Take a long weekend, or even a week, to give yourselves all the quality time you need to rekindle the spark in your relationship.
Sometimes, all you really need is a change of pace and scenery to help you break out of your regular routines and see your relationship in a new light. Taking time to focus on your relationship isn’t just a way to rekindle the romance. It’s also a clear sign to your partner that you still care about making the relationship work. Take the time during your getaway to work on your communication. It’s an effective way to come back stronger and closer, and bring yourselves one step closer to fixing the relationship.
- Be generous with one another
It’s always important to cultivate a sense of generosity in a relationship. Giving your partner a little more of your time and attention makes a world of difference when it comes to rebuilding your relationship.
It’s usually the little things that make the greatest impact, so focus on those to get your partner’s attention. For example, if your partner likes back massages, offer to give them one after a long day; don’t wait to be asked. A good rule of thumb when it comes to being generous is going above and beyond.
There are a few other things you can do to make your relationship even a bit more generous. Always be attentive to your partner’s needs, for one. Keep an eye out for when they seem happy or sad. Sometimes a pat on the back for a job well done or a shoulder to cry on can make plenty of difference.
- Avoid thinking of yourself as a victim
When the happy memories fade, it’s common to point fingers at your partner. However, blame rarely rests entirely on one party. The responsible thing to do in a bad situation is to question what role you may have had in making things reach this point.
Rather than assume the victim role and give your partner the role of oppressor, it’s healthier to take a look at yourself and make some improvements. Make the necessary changes to reinvent yourself as a more positive and healthy partner in the relationship.
Ask yourself what changes you can make to your own behaviour, or your treatment of your partner, to take some of the burden off their shoulders. Making your own positive changes to yourself has a major impact on how you view yourself and how your partner views you. - Cultivate positivity
When going through rough patches, it’s not uncommon for people to focus on the negatives. However, a positive outlook is one of the best things to have when you’re going through such times.
Take responsibility for the good times, as well as the bad. You have the power to share positivity in your relationship. Make an effort to be positive throughout the day. Pay your partner compliments, remember to useI’m a 20-something stay-at-home mother and wife. I have an amazing husband, a beautiful daughter, two loving dogs, and a lazy cat. I wouldn’t change my life for anything! I love to read, listen to music, cook and blog!
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