5 Co-Parenting Top Tips

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You got married, got a home, and had a child or children together.

Now, a few years down the road, a problem arose, or you just grew apart and suddenly, your spouse is your ex, and you are trying to manage a co-parenting situation. This is not only a sad situation—it is also very hard!


However, there are some key steps you can take to ensure successful co-parenting with your former partner, so read on for top tips that will keep your kids happy and healthy.

Keep Communication Open

OK, so when it comes to seeing your ex-partner, you don’t want to tell them everything that’s going on in your life. Try to keep everything you talk about based on the children and schedules.

If you find it hard to be amicable with your former spouse, then communicate openly and regularly with your co-parent through a shared calendar or messaging platform. That way, you don’t have to see each other until absolutely necessary, and your children will get the best of both worlds. If you need help on drawing up a schedule together, head to twohealthyhomes.com for advice.

Put in Boundaries

You aren’t together, so don’t meddle in their personal life, and don’t tolerate them meddling in yours.

Set clear boundaries and stick to them, but also be flexible and willing to compromise when necessary—but only concerning your children.

If you feel that your ex-spouse is harassing you, or is being difficult for the sake of it (petulance), then seek legal advice on how to resolve this issue. If you are the parent that has primary custody of the children, do not use them as pawns to get control of the situation.

Put the Kids First

Nobody wants to be in contact with their former partner; or they wouldn’t be a former partner! But in this instance, you have children who need you to get along with each other and to try and keep it civil. 

Make sure to put the needs of your children first and put your differences aside for the sake of them. If you are finding it hard to do so, be open about it with your former partner and seek counseling or therapy for yourself to help you manage your feelings.

Be Consistent

The rules need to be adhered to for your kids, as you don’t want to hear the dreaded phrase, “well, dad lets me do it at his place!”

Try to maintain consistency with parenting styles and rules between households to minimize confusion for the children. This is very important if they are young, as they may find the whole process extremely hard as it is.

Talk to your ex if you can about the rules that you both feel need to be adhered to. And remember, if they are being belligerent, seek legal advice.

Get Help

Suppose you have tried to co-parent with your ex but find that your emotions keep bubbling to the surface. Or suppose theirs are, and it is impacting negatively on the children.

You, or they, will need to seek out professional help, such as counseling or mediation, to resolve conflicts or improve communication.

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