A woman is a mystery or so the saying goes. It’s very difficult for guys sometimes to decode the desires of their partners and to ensure perfect harmony in the bedroom (and beyond).
Obviously, there are tons of gender stereotypes that stand in the way of profound understanding. Lots of those revolve around the bedroom desires of ladies. These stereotypes, however, don’t come anywhere near the exact needs of women.
If you’re looking for ways to improve your bedroom performance and make your partner happy, you’ll need to have an open and honest conversation with each other. Chances are that the information you’ll obtain from such a talk is going to surprise you. Beyond the obvious, however, here are a few of the things that women want and need for sexual satisfaction and relationship happiness.
A Little Bit of Sensitivity and Emotional Expression
Being emotionally open and even a bit vulnerable is really sexy in a world of toxic masculinity.
It’s been shown time and time again that sexual vulnerability is incredibly empowering for both men and women. Vulnerability is openness, it creates trust and provokes a partner to share in a similar manner. A vulnerable person is very raw and very authentic two characteristics that just about everyone out there will find attractive.
Unfortunately, we live in a society that teaches men from a young age that showing emotions and being open are both signs of weakness. A stoic man feels things on the inside, without letting anything reach the surface.
Sexual vulnerability is incredibly refreshing for both people experiencing it. If you’ve never been this open with a partner before, you’ve probably never built a deeply intimate sexual relationship. Needless to say, vulnerability cannot be practiced with everyone. When in a committed, serious relationship, however, it’s definitely the stepping stone towards a greater level of intimacy.
Verbal Reassurance
Do you think your partner is pretty? Sexy? Do you tell her that? Have you ever gone into details about her body parts you like the most? Have you ever told her how she drives you wild and what you’d like to do to her?
While men are visual creatures, women enjoy verbal reassurance a lot in the bedroom.
This tip is especially important for the guys who have been in a relationship for some time already.
If you’ve been sharing the same bed with a special lady for years, chances are that you no longer talk about how sexy or attractive you find her. Give this type of communication a try. Chances are that you’ll unleash her sexuality in a deep, meaningful and passionate way.
Verbal reassurance is essentials for all aspects of a relationship and not just sexual chemistry. No longer talking about your feelings or the way you find your significant other amazing could be indicative of taking your partner for granted.
Both Foreplay and Afterplay
According to Men’s Journal, there are two parts of sex that matter a lot to all women foreplay and afterplay.
Foreplay has received a lot of attention through the years.
You probably know its importance already. You’ve gone through tutorials teaching you how to get her aroused. You’ve talked to your partner and you know how to turn her on.
Afterplay is an equally important part of the sexual experience. For some women, it could be the most important of them all.
The term refers to cuddling, touching each other, sharing a laugh or a cigarette after you’ve done with sex. Afterplay makes women feel reassured and desired. It shows that the experience is a lot more than just sex. Cuddling in bed after sex builds intimacy and a deep connection (even if you don’t have a profound talk about the meaning of life).
Sexual Openness
Many guys have sex in the exact same way throughout their life and they’re not open to exploration and new experiences.
If you’re one of these men, you’re missing on huge opportunities to enjoy sex like you’ve never had it before.
Sexual openness is the willingness to try out new things. It could revolve around the exploration of fantasies or kinks. It could mean roleplay, taking sex out of the bedroom or having a bit of fun with adult toys like uncircumcised dildos.
There isn’t just one way to have sex and enjoy passion. Human sexuality is so diverse and extensive. If you have a certain side of your sexuality that you’ve never explored before, let your partner know. She’d be more than happy to learn more about your desires and to share hers. Embarking on a sexual exploration journey together will build a meaningful connection and it can definitely make your sex life much better.
A Commitment to a Partner’s Orgasm
Now, this one is fairly obvious but too many guys out there have gotten used to being selfish in bed.
All women, no exceptions, want someone who’s committed to their orgasm. They dream of a guy who does everything in his power to make a partner climax. If that means 30 minutes of oral sex, so be it.
Being selfish in bed is ok every once in a while. We’ve all had a moment when we just wanted to receive a bit of quick pleasure without reciprocating extensively.
Generally speaking, an amazing partner is bed enjoys the process of making orgasms happen for both (or all) parties involved. They take their time, they communicate, they know what they’re doing and they don’t give up.
The desire to please a significant other is incredibly sexy. And even if an orgasm doesn’t happen every single time, the commitment to bringing someone there is enough to elevate the experience.
If you try out a few of these things, you’ll probably surprise your partner in the most pleasant way. Don’t be afraid to communicate and explore. Seek aspects of your sexuality you may never have pursued before. Get to know her intimately and deeply. Committing to these simple things will result in a massive payoff and a much happier relationship.
I’m a 20-something stay-at-home mother and wife. I have an amazing husband, a beautiful daughter, two loving dogs, and a lazy cat. I wouldn’t change my life for anything! I love to read, listen to music, cook and blog!
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