Even these days, our society still has problems understanding that single moms also want to be happy in romantic relationships and that dating them is not a bad thing. It is hard to say why there are so many people (both men and women) who can find thousands of reasons why you should never date a single mom as a man, and why dating is not practical as a single mom. Due to this fact, dating as a single mom is a very complicated aspect of human romantic relationships. Unfortunately, only a few single moms from a hundred easily find their happiness.
You should never neglect your happiness, and romantic relationships are crucial for achieving it. Therefore, the main question is not about whether it is worth it, but how to mentally prepare for dating as a single mom. After all, too many things have changed in your life since your last date, and you can’t accept moving too fast in relationships anymore. Children require a lot of attention, therefore, you won’t have too much time for your romantic partner, not until he or she becomes very close to you and you decide to live together.
What to do with a child on dates?
You see, it is obvious that your children should, in 90% of cases, be the number one priority for you, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t go on dates. The lack of free time is one of the biggest problems that you may encounter, but it is not as bad as it seems. After all, there are many ways how you can help yourself deal with this problem.
First of all, it is always possible to ask your relatives or friends to stay with your child while you will go on a date. I am sure that they will understand your situation and will help you. But, sometimes, both relatives and friends can’t help you, in this case, you can find a paid babysitter. To find a good babysitter, it is better to call only trustworthy agencies that provide guarantees and control their employers.
Also, there I another interesting way of how you can combine your date with leisure time with your kids. In some cases, you can bring your children with you on your date. Of course, your partner should be acquainted with your children, and you must let him or her know that you will come not alone to your date. This is the best way to see real cases and examples of how your partner reacts to your children and whether he or she is ready to have a serious relationship with you.
Tips how to date as a single mom As you can see, your positive attitude to dating as a single mom pays a crucial role in your success. However, sometimes it is very important to understand some small hints and avoid misconceptions that may decrease your chances of success or ruin your new romantic relationship at all.
1. Don’t lie about your status
By lying about your status, you won’t achieve happiness. Sooner or later, your new partner will learn that you were hiding very important information from him or her, and this won’t be pleasant. Consequently, in most cases, you will have to forget about this person forever.
2. Surround yourself with reliable people
You will need reliable people when it comes to searching for someone who can stay with your child while you will be on your date. Coldhearted? No one told you that you should be selfish, but it is always better to surround yourself with people you can trust.
3. Don’t stay at home
Avoid always staying at home. Yes, it may be very hard, especially with young children or toddlers, but this is the key to your happiness.
4. Be honest with your kids
By being honest with your kids about the fact that you are dating other people, you show them a nice example of behavioral patterns. Thus you show that that inside your family, you can share everything.
5. Work on your sense of humor
Humor is very important when it comes to problems, and with children, you can never know when their sudden call can interrupt your date.
I’m a 20-something stay-at-home mother and wife. I have an amazing husband, a beautiful daughter, two loving dogs, and a lazy cat. I wouldn’t change my life for anything! I love to read, listen to music, cook and blog!
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