What do men really think about? To this day, many women believe that men are complex and hard to understand. But the truth is that men are very simple creatures; the only issue is that it is hard for them to express themselves. Men usually need to trust and have an established emotional connection with someone to be able to open up. So to help you better understand the men in your life, we have decided to let you in on a few secrets.
Read on to know what men really think about, but don’t usually say out loud.
Their Appearance
Many women assume men are exempt from body insecurities. Men from a young age put on a front to appear confident at all times, but the truth is that men think about their appearance just as much as women do. They also feel insecure about parts of their body, whether they are tall enough, have muscles, or have a good head of hair. It is even harder for a man to open up about these insecurities as men tend to not share this even with their best buddies.
Their Need for Sexual Intimacy
Men struggle to let their partners know that they have a need for sexual intimacy for fear of being judged. However, sexual intimacy is very important to a man in a relationship because it helps him feel emotionally connected to his partner. This is why after a fight, men typically might try to connect with their significant others through physical intimacy.
Whether Their Partners Are Satisfied
Sexual performance is directly connected to a man’s self-esteem, and men often worry that they are not sexually satisfying their partners. A man will hardly ever express his thoughts and fears regarding his sexual performance. He will look for ways to last longer in the bedroom to make sure his partner is pleased as he often worries about the quality of his sex life. He wants a little spontaneity and variety in sexual intimacy just as much as you do, but it is easy for a man to get into a routine with repetitive positions, which makes him worry that his partner wants more.
Whether Their Partner Desires Them
Women love compliments that’s no secret. But a little known fact is that men do, too! Men need to feel that they are desired by their partner. This makes them feel good about themselves, which, in turn, will make them want you to feel just as special as you make them feel. Men rarely open up about the need to feel desired which is why you should let them know that you do whenever you can. In short, a man wants to feel that he is attractive in your eyes just as you want him to feel the same way about you.
Their Success and Financial Stability
Men often think about the future, and they fear they will not reach their potential or achieve their goals. A man’s success and ability to provide greatly affect his sense of self-worth. A man hopes to be able to financially provide for his partner and even start a family. It is very easy for a man to feel like a failure if he has yet to become successful, and his confidence can be shaken if he is struggling financially, especially if he has a family. He will rarely open up about these fears or how it affects his self-esteem. Instead, he will usually create some space between you in order to gather his thoughts and try to find solutions without you ever knowing there was an issue.
Their Need to Feel Appreciated
Men, like women, need to feel that they are appreciated in a relationship especially when it comes to the little, everyday things that they do, from taking out the trash and doing the dishes to making money and providing for the family. A man would like to feel that his partner truly values his contributions by simply hearing it once in a while. Even during the dating period, a man will question whether he is appreciated by his date or being taken advantage of. He is happy to pay for the date, but if he feels that there appears to be no chemistry or mutual appreciation between you, he will feel used. For instance, if he purchases the movie theatre tickets, and his date pays for the popcorn, he will feel that she is a team player who appreciates what he is trying to do for her.
Their Need for Space
Men struggle to communicate their need for space with their partners, and many women tend to take this personally. Studies show that desire needs space, so giving your partner space is actually a good idea. The truth is that men who feel that they have no space, or time for themselves tend to feel trapped in a relationship and that their partner is robbing them of their freedom. Men take space to make sure that they do not lose their sense of identity or to help them solve a problem. This is another reason why many men feel the need to have a man-cave in the home.
They Want Their Partner to be Independent
This is a little known fact, but yes, men want their partners to be independent. As much as they love to provide and feel valued when their partners dote on them, they also don’t want to feel responsible for their partner’s happiness. A partner who relies on him too much only puts pressure on a man. He wants to take care of you, but he also wants to know you can take care of yourself and have your own life and identity. He wants to add to your happiness, not be solely responsible for it.
Men tend to think about their insecurities, futures, and needs just as much as women do. They struggle to express these thoughts openly for various reasons. However, if a man feels his partner will understand him without any judgment, he will be more likely to feel safe with you and open up about his desires and fears.
I’m a 20-something stay-at-home mother and wife. I have an amazing husband, a beautiful daughter, two loving dogs, and a lazy cat. I wouldn’t change my life for anything! I love to read, listen to music, cook and blog!
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