You might dislike the idea of joining social gatherings. You think that you’re in an awkward position all the time. You don’t know how to deal with strangers. You don’t even know what to say to people you regularly talk to in other settings. Everyone dresses well for the occasion, and you don’t blend in well. These tips will help you prepare for the gathering and keep you confident. 
Wear your best outfit
You won’t feel intimidated by other guests when you know that you look great. Even if a random person in the room approaches you, it won’t make you feel nervous. Sometimes, having ill-fitting clothes can knock your confidence. Therefore, it’s a good thing to choose a bespoke suit. You can move freely and feel comfortable throughout the night.
Think of topics to discuss
Usually, the most difficult part about talking to other people is starting a conversation. When you don’t know where to begin, it’s difficult to move forward. As such, it’s important that you are aware of what’s going on around you. Look for topics that you feel interested in, and would help carry a long conversation. Avoid topics that are divisive like politics or religion.
Try to be more outgoing
The reason why you feel awkward when meeting other people is that you always do things alone. You don’t go out regularly. You always decline party invitations. It’s time that you change your attitude and try to be more sociable. Eventually, you will treat these events as a regular part of life, and you won’t feel nervous at all.
Stop judging people
Another reason why you dislike social gatherings is that you judge people based on their appearance. When you meet someone who looks amazing, you immediately feel intimidated. You can’t keep concluding if someone is good or bad based on appearance. Try to suspend judgment and start a conversation.
You’re not the star of the event
There are instances when you feel like everyone is looking at you. The truth is that no one is. You’re not the centre of the party. You attended the event to celebrate a milestone achieved by a group or individuals. When you realize that not all eyes are on you, it will help you relax.
Leave negative thoughts behind
Everyone goes through problems, whether at work or at home. Regardless, you need to learn how to leave them behind for now. There are other times for you to deal with these issues and now isn’t the right time. The problem when you overwhelm yourself with negative thoughts is that you start to be nervous. You can’t concentrate on the present, and you run out of words to say.
With these helpful tips, you will feel more confident at any formal event. You don’t need to get drunk just to start a conversation with a stranger. Keep attending different events until such time that you don’t feel nervous at all.
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