Where to Start After a Death of a Loved One

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One of the saddest events in a person’s life is losing a loved one. It’s often hard to start and move on after the funeral, leaving most people still empty and lonely inside. So, where should you start after a death of a loved one? 

In this post, you’ll learn some helpful tips to help you start living an everyday life again after your loved one passed away.  

Let Go of the Deceased’s Possessions 

As much as possible, the grieving family wants to get rid of the deceased’s possessions after the funeral. It can be a tough decision but there are services to help remove and clear the deceased’s things. Deceased estate cleanups and rubbish removal services help make it easier for loved ones to let go without having to agonize over the belongings themselves.  

Resume Doing Daily Tasks  

Losing a loved one can be physically and mentally exhausting. You have to deal with funeral arrangements, visitors, legal matters, and other things related to the deceased. 

Check these helpful tips for tackling your daily tasks: 

  • Take One Task at a Time: While you want to resume your normal daily routine, it’s best to take one task to ensure you’ll finish it without causing fatigue and frustration that could add to your psychological burden. 
  • Set a Reminder: You might still be at a loss psychologically, blocking your focus and cognitive functioning. It would help set a reminder, like an alarm or calendar, to keep you notified of the things you need to do. 
  • Set a Schedule: Schedule your tasks to keep you guided on the expected things you have to accomplish at home or in the office. Include your children in daily household chores to divert their attention from sad thoughts. 

Keep the Good Memories 

Losing a loved one doesn’t mean forgetting the person just to move on. Leave the bad memories at the back of your head and allow the good memories to resurface.  

Take a look at these tips for preserving your good memories of the deceased: 

  • Write a Journal: For some people, a daily journal, like speaking with the deceased, helps them to express their thoughts and emotions.  
  • Create a Photo Compilation: A photo gallery, either in a physical album or digital, can help preserve the good memories of your departed loved one. It’s one way to keep you busy and allow you to reminisce at the same time. You can share the photos with family and friends to also make them feel better. 
  • Watching Videos: Contrary to what most people think, watching the deceased person’s videos can help some people move on. Instead of keeping their pain and sorrow, they burst out in tears watching videos and get some catharsis. 
Old woman laying flowers on a grave

Think of a Better Place 

 One way to ease the pain and sorrow is to think that your loved one is in a much better place. This technique is a form of conditioning the mind that aims to promote good outcomes. 

Check the following ways to help you think more positive about the situation and how to explain things better to your children: 

  • Think that your loved one will no longer feel pain or sorrow 
  • Think that your loved one is finally at peace with their creator 
  • Think that you’ll see again in heaven or the ‘second life’ 

The specifics will, of course, vary depending on your culture and your religious beliefs, or lack thereof as the case may be. However, regardless of your beliefs, there is some kind of solace to be found in your time of grief. 

Seek Counseling 

Grieving is normal, and some people take more time to move on from the event, especially if the deceased died because of wrongdoing or a crime. Guilt, anger, and depression arise along this dark journey. If the road to emotional and mental recovery seems far away, it’s crucial to seek professional help.  

A psychologist or psychiatrist can help you get through the grieving process by: 

  • Prescribing antidepressants as needed 
  • Conduct face-to-face counseling and psychiatric assessment 
  • Group therapy and cognitive behavior therapy 


It can be very difficult to find a way to resume life as ‘normal’ after you lose a loved one. It’s important to note that grieving is a unique process, and each person will experience it differently from the other bereaved. There is no shame in taking more or less time to process the death of someone you cared about than the others grieving around you. What matters is finding healthy means of expressing and coping with your mourning, which will eventually and naturally lead you back to your typical daily life. 

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