8 Helpful Tips for Parenting Children Through Puberty

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As a parent, you likely have some questions about puberty and its meaning for your child. The good news is that you can help your child navigate this confusing time by talking to them about it early and often.

This article will talk about what puberty does to the body and how parents can encourage children to feel comfortable discussing their changing bodies.

Focus On Building Trust

  • When it comes to conversations about sex, the most important thing is to have them early and often. If you have a young child who has not yet reached puberty and you never bring up the topic of sex (or even if you do), your child may feel uncomfortable coming to you later on with questions or concerns.
  • One of the best ways for parents to avoid this problem is by ensuring that their children know that they can come to them anytime, no matter their questions or concern. This means encouraging kids to talk about anything in terms of schoolwork and relationships—and it also means being open when your kids ask questions about sexuality.
  • Make sure that all internet devices are password-protected so that children cannot access explicit content without permission from an adult family member.

Seek Help From Sex-Positive Parenting Classes

If you’re like many parents, you may feel a little lost when talking about puberty and sex with your children. Many sex-positive parenting classes offer tools for talking about puberty to feel comfortable for both parents and kids. These classes can help you understand your child’s changes, how they might be feeling, and how to talk with them about these things in an age-appropriate manner. They also allow you to get some guidance on how best to support your child during this time of change.

Recognize That These Conversations Can Be Awkward for Both of You

Recognize that these conversations can be awkward for both of you. Don’t worry about being too uncomfortable; your child will be glad to know you are trying to guide them through this new stage of development, and they’ll appreciate your attempts at guidance even if they aren’t perfect. If a conversation is going poorly, try again later with a different approach or at another time with less distraction around (such as when there’s not a TV show on). You might also want to ask friends or family members who have been through puberty with their own children if they’ve had any advice they’d like to offer.

Make Sure Your Kid Feels Safe Coming to You for Information

When your child is ready, they will come to you with questions and concerns. Make them feel safe and comfortable. You may ask them how they would like to talk about their changing body. If they’re shy and don’t want to talk about it out loud, suggest that they could write down their questions or have someone else act as a go-between for communication—the mailman or your neighbor’s kid will work just fine!

If your child is worried about privacy, let them know that you are there for them! Try not to judge their decisions because, ultimately, it’s up to kids how much information they want from their parents and other adults in their life.

Be Prepared for Questions as Early as Age 5

The right time to start talking about puberty is when your child is interested in the subject. Some children begin asking questions as early as age 5, but it’s a good idea to wait until your child is at least 7 or 8 before discussing anything of a sexual nature. This gives you enough time to prepare and plan out how you want to answer each question that may come up later on.

You often don’t know the exact answer to whatever question your child has about their body or what’s happening inside of them. It’s essential to encourage them by telling them that they can ask more questions if they need help understanding something. You should always be honest with your kids—if one day you feel too embarrassed by what was asked, let them know it might be best for their body image if someone else answered this time! However, remember: answering one specific question doesn’t mean opening up Pandora’s Box every day after school/work/etc., so feel free now or later without feeling guilty!

Set Aside Time to Have a Calm, Focused Conversation

As your child gets older, it’s essential to make sure that you spend quality time together. For this to happen, you should set aside time to talk about what’s going on in their lives. This can be done after school or during a weekend at home.

You mustn’t barge into their room and start talking while they are doing homework or watching TV. Instead, find a good time when they are least likely to be distracted by other things and have them sit down with you so that the conversation isn’t interrupted by friends coming over or chores needing to be done around the house.

The best way I’ve found is to have one-on-one talks at breakfast because then we all get breakfast together instead of later when everyone wants different things (or worse, everyone wants pizza).

If you can’t take out time in your house, a good option is again to go to a sex-positive parenting class. These classes can offer you both privacy and one-on-one time to connect and communicate with your child.

Start Talking About Sex Early, so the Concept Is Not Scary When They Are Older

Part of being a parent is teaching your kids about the world. If you don’t teach them about sex, they might get it from another source.

Talking to your kids about sex can be awkward and scary for both parents and children. But if you start talking about sex early, when they are young and have no genuine interest in the subject, then the concept will not be scary when they are older. It’s better to discuss topics like this than to let them learn on their own or, worse still, learn from someone else that doesn’t necessarily have the best intentions at heart!

Don’t Shame Your Child if They Ask Questions or Have a Reaction That Surprises You

If you find that your child has a reaction that surprises you (or if they have questions or comments that make you feel uncomfortable), don’t shame themselves for their feelings. It’s nothing to be ashamed of! Take a deep breath and remember that this is all new territory for everyone involved—including yourself.

It’s also important not to blame yourself for any discomfort felt by either party during puberty education. There are so many factors at play here: hormones, learning styles, past experiences with sex ed at school/church/etc., cultural influences, and the list goes on! These things can all add up in unexpected ways when it comes time for these conversations with your kids—so keep an open mind about what might come up and try not to get frustrated if things take longer than expected or go off-track from what was initially planned out ahead of time.


Puberty is a confusing time for everyone. Your child may be going through changes as they grow and develop, but you can help them navigate these changes by communicating with them early and often. As a parent, it’s your job to set boundaries and expectations for your children, so they know what’s expected of them at home. They also need to know what kind of behavior is acceptable or unacceptable in the eyes of the family.

It’s essential that parents set an example for their children by being respectful toward others. Still, it’s also vital that parents are good listeners when their kids have something to say or ask about something that happened at school or with friends. Communication is critical when it comes to raising healthy teens who will hopefully grow up into responsible adults who will contribute positively to society!

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